Dancing with Rage
“Rage is unalchemized passion—absolutely a force for good, if it wakes people up to the truth in the world.” -Kasia Urbaniak
As someone who used to be afraid of my own anger—and deeply uncomfortable with others’—I carried a lot of shame around it. Learning to embrace the power and wisdom of anger has been a journey.
Anger is an emotion. It wants to move through us.
We don’t always get to choose when it arrives,
but we do get to choose what we do with it.
Over the past year, I’ve been playing with anger a lot.
And recently, rage dancing has become a regular part of my life—at least a few times a week. It feels cleansing. Empowering. Alive.
There’s a quote by Joseph Campbell: “Bliss is feeling our feelings fully.”
And rage dancing has helped me feel bliss and pleasure in ways I didn’t expect.
I know it might sound wild, but it’s become a potent access point to my full range of feelings.
It’s fun. It’s liberating. And most importantly—it’s rage without shame.
💥 TIPS TO PLAY
Create a space that feels safe and free.
If people are around, use headphones. If you want to vocalize, try a powerful silent scream, scream into a pillow, or wait until you're alone and go apeshit. Permission is powerful.
Make it your own.
Meet yourself where you are. If you don’t feel safe, or if shame starts to creep in, don’t force it. Stay within your “window of tolerance.”
Some days, drumming or scribbling may feel safer than dancing—and that’s beautiful too.
Choose the right music.
This is key! Find songs that help you access your rage.
Here’s a playlist I created to inspire you—it starts with raw anger and moves into empowerment.
If you have songs to share, please send them. It would make my day!
Notice how your body wants to move anger.
Where does it live in your body? Trust that it knows what it needs.
Punch fists, stomp, kick, growl, shake—let out your inner temper tantrum.
Use story if it helps.
Maybe you’re angry about the state of the world.
Maybe it’s something someone said. Let life give you the spark.
Allow for tears and pleasure!!!
Sometimes anger is a shield for hurt. If you cry during the process, let it come.
Imagine it like a rainstorm clearing the air—energy that wants to move.
It can also feel pleasurable to rage. Let that come too!
Need a visual?
Here’s a video of me rage dancing—watching it helps me release my own self-consciousness, and maybe it’ll inspire your own release.
Go at your own pace.
If there’s a part of you that feels deeply unsafe with anger, be gentle.
And please reach out if you have questions, concerns, or want personalized tips.
